Rayne Millaray is a wild, 30-something, sex enthusiast who's been "just one of the guys" for as long a she can remember. She's been having sex since 1996, blogging about her sex life since 2005, advocating for a sex-positive society since 2008 and working in the adult industry since 2010. Her writing is published on various blogs around the web, and she currently edits SexIs Magazine, which focuses on sexuality, sex and relationships. Rayne is, without a doubt, the girl your mother warned you about. And she loves it. Any questions for her can be sent to her at: raynemillaray@gmail.com
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How To Deal With Breaking Up Like An Adult
It happened. The last straw that the two of you had to carry has broken the camel's back. The camel, your straw, and all the pieces of your broken heart are scattered all over the ground. You don't know exactly how it happened, or even when, but as this particular argument wears on, you realize there is no going back this time...
My Significant Other Is Talking To Their Ex On Facebook, What Do I Do?
Your partner's spent the whole day at the computer. They get up and wander off to the restroom, or to grab a drink, and you lean over innocently to clean up their workspace. As you're picking up the rumpled paper, and wiping away the crumbs, you notice they left their Facebook messages open...
Does Condom Use Make You A Bad Person?
So, I've got a bone to pick with a certain minority within a group of like-minded people, and in particular, their opinion that birth control is bad, mmkay? I know you know who I'm talking about, and I'm very sorry if this is you. But when it comes right down to it, if I'm to be honest, I must admit that I find this opinion just a bit shortsighted, and more than a little narrow-minded...
Is It Bad If My Partner Is Quiet In Bed?
The other day, while trolling a few sexuality-related forums, I found a question that kinda struck a chord with me. A woman asked how she could encourage her husband to be more vocal in bed. She asked if anyone had ever been with a lover who, aside from the fact that they were actively having sex, showed no outward signs of enjoying it
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Guys -Tips on Avoiding a Fast Finish in Bed
Some afternoon, you'll rush home from work, jump in the shower, and do all those manly hygienic things that you fellas do. You'll carefully style your hair in the best rocky 'do you can pull off at its current length, or stuff it all under a ball cap scrawled with the name of the night's headliner
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Why Are We Having Less Sex?
“My partner and I have been together a while. In the beginning, things were hot, hot, HOT! I'm talking sometimes every night, if not a couple times a day! And now? We're lucky if we have sex once a week. What happened?”
As I've said before, you don't have to be female, old, or married to experience a decrease in sexual activity or desire...
Porn: A Couples Guide
As I've mentioned before, my day job involves a community of people looking to expand their horizons, sexually speaking. My coworkers and I spend parts of our days finding new ways to get them to feel comfortable talking about it. Something we're aiming for is a society that is more open and honest about sexuality...
Sex Games: NFL Playoffs Edition
Last year, around this time, I was babbling about how not to kill your partner during the playoffs, and what kind of things to do to keep the fire alive when you'd rather be watching the game. These are important things to know for those of us who are involved with someone who's not a football fan...
Are There Ever Reasons Not To Have Sex?
The other day, my twitbud Chad linked me to an article on ChaCha.com called 7 Reasons Not to Have Sex. I clicked thinking it was someone advocating for abstinence, or maybe asexuality. Instead, what I found was more false information about sex and hygiene...
Rules For One Night Stands
Before M snagged me, and I became monogamous, I was the queen of the one night stand. I had too much baggage to be involved in much more, and I really like sex, so there were only two other options, really. And since friends with benefits still required more commitment than I was interested in, I got picking up dudes and chicks, bringing them home and then waking up to an empty bed down to an art.
Consent While Drunk Is Impossible To Give
There's something absolutely horrifying going on in a little town called Steubenville, Ohio. There's an article about it on the New York Times website that came a full two months after a blogger named Alex Goddard tried to bring attention to what's going on in this small town, and three months after the event actually took place...
The Ultimate Relationship Gift Guide
There's just two weekends till Christmas, and you are in a relationship. I don't care how many times you talked about it, or how many times you agreed not to get each other something, you're both going to be disappointed if there's nothing from each other under the tree...